Entries before sleep.
January 16th, 2009

Oh Bob.

Read Dylan on Dylan (Bob Dylan)

he’s a fucking great dude. I can’t wait to watch I’m not there.

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September 24th, 2008

old notes 2004 – sternberg research

The three components of love (Sternberg, 1986)

a. Passion – an intense physiological desire for someone

b. Intimacy – the feeling that one can share one’s thoughts/actions with another

c. Commitment – willingness to stay with a person through good and bad the seven forms of love

1. Liking

– involves some level of intimacy, closeness, understanding and affection

– but no passion and no commitment

– e.g. some friendships

2. Infatuation

– passion is high

– no intimacy or commitment

– e.g. “love at first sight”

– infatuation can end quickly

3. Empty love

– a relationship that has lost it’s passion and intimacy

– but remains high on commitment

4. Romantic love

– passion is high

– intimacy is high

– but no commitment has developed

5. Fatuous love

– passion is high

– “swept off their feet”

– commitment is high but premature

– no time for intimacy to develop

– “marry in haste, repent at leisure”

6. Companionate love

– intimacy is high

– commitment is high

– passion is low, or has diminished

– e.g. long term friendships & marriages

7. Consummate love

– passion, intimacy and commitment all remain high

– but the relationship has to be worked at to maintain all these features

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September 21st, 2008

eat pray love?

Everyone’s telling me to read the infamous Elizabeth Gilbert’s book, Eat, pray, love. I’ve finally gotten my hands onto it but I’m not exactly keen to read it yet.

I’m supposed to be moving on really well and work’spretty awesome, but I can’t deny the fact that i still leave office feeling miserable most of the evenings, especially during the hour long bus rides accompanied with songs that never fail to illustrate a love story in my head. Sometimes to avoid that, I have to cab home – minimise the whole mental discomfort.

Recently I’ve purchased an essential oil that has the ability to make you sleep, almost immediately after burning. On my first night, I overslept and after every other night, i woke up often with a good dream to recall. About dreams, the most recent one was about me and him discovering a house within a room in my present apartment. In it, the ‘secret’ house emitted a bright warm light shining at us. We walked towards the light and in front of us was a huge home theatre, soft canvas sofa and everyone in my family was there, even my nieces, nephews, relatives I see once a year, were in the crowd. The rest of the dream were gone. I’ve come to realise that dreams are like perfume, they smell so good but such fragrance don’t usually last as long as you want them to be.

Friday was probably the best night of this year, having it spent with my 2 greatest buddies. We’ve gotten closer once again and tomorrow, we’re going to be separated for about eight months. Ping’s heading back to London. I hope that dude comes back next year with better stories to tell. See you soon.

Also to all of you, have a good week.

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April 14th, 2008

Dad and his Lennon Legend book

Last November I got my dad a dvd on the beatles first U.S tour dvd as a birthday present.
Last Saturday I was bored and decided to watch it.

Now I can’t stop wanting to know Beatles and the best part, I found this on the sofa when I got back from work :

Lennon Legend: An illustrated Life of John Lennon

I flipped through the pages and told my he looked (when he was in his 20s) like Paul in some of the pictures and he said he rather look like Johnny in the cover.

This book wrapped my monday blues away.

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March 9th, 2008

veronika decides to die

She picked up the four packs of sleeping pills from her bedside table. Instead of crushing them and mixing them with water, she decided to take them one by one, because there is always a gap between intention and action, and she wanted to feel free to turn back halfway. However, with each pill she swallowed, she felt more convinced: after five minutes the packs were empty.

I’ve been ambitionless. why do I keep thinking abt Hong Kong? If you haven’t already known, I was there last week. I miss everything there and among all my trips, I love this the most because Ass reads the map and we really explored the places with our feet. If only we could stay there for a longer time.
pictures here

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